|can we say sleep deprived?!|
Harper is adjusting to life pretty well! She's an overall very sweet baby and I hope/think she's got a pretty good disposition on life so far. She coos, smiles, and is alert a lot and I just love it! One thing she's not so good at is her sleeping at night! But, we started Baby Wise on Friday and she's had 2 out of 3 nights with no crying...so I call that a success! I think she definitely recognizes Brian and I's voices because she smiles when we are talking to her. As a part of her routine, I've been reading Brown Bear, Brown Bear in the mornings to her. Yesterday she was smiling the whole way through! I'm sure she can't see the pictures, but it sure looked like she was looking at each page!
She's a pretty good eater I think so far, it's just been hard to keep her awake to eat enough since I am having to wake her up during the day from her naps. We have been trying cold washcloths, tickling feet, taking her clothes off, etc. but it seems to take 2 people to keep it going. So, it's been pretty hard on Brian since he went back to work.
As far as BF is going...well...I'd love to tell you I love it, but I don't. :( Just being honest. It makes me feel like such a bad Mom. I had anxiety over each feeding time. I've had to use the nipple shield (sorry, TMI for my male readers!) since birth and it's very frustrating to make sure I have that and a cold rag wherever I nurse. I've tried weaning her off of it but she just refuses to eat without it. I'm thinking of going to a lactation office within the week to see if they can help - but haven't decided yet. I'm also so worried all the time about her eating enough and constantly watch the clock to average how much she's eating. She's currently only eating about 17 minutes for both, but she's been gaining so the pediatrician hasn't been worried. I guess we'll see this coming week at her 2-week check-up! She's also started projectile spitting up which scares us so bad when it happens at night in her bassinet. I'm so thankful for the raised bassinet! Oh, and we have to use Mylicon drops every time I nurse as well! :(
I know tons of people who do/did Baby Wise, so we wanted to do it, too. It all makes sense...you know the part where you tell Harper when it's time to eat, play, and sleep so she doesn't "rule the house". HAHA But, it is very time consuming doing this. I sometimes feel all I do is feed her!
Her current schedule is:
7am (sometimes 7:30 b/c of early morning feedings): Nurse for about 45 minutes
Play Time for about 45 min.
Nap until -
Play Time for 45 min (depending on how long it took to nurse)
Nap until -
Play Time for 45 min
Nap for 1-1 1/2 hrs
Play Time (bathtime)
Then she has been waking up around 2-2:15 to eat and then again around 4:30-5 to eat...hence the 7am feeding is hard to get her to eat again!
Did anyone else think sleeping only 1 1/2 hours between feedings is a little short for a newborn?
I think Play Time will get easier once she realizes she can't nap right after she eats. We usually try to read a book, read a chapter out of her little children's Bible, and then I lay her under her activity gym or try the vibrating seat (but that puts her to sleep!). Any suggestions of other things I can do at this stage?!
One thing we've decided not to follow just yet with Baby Wise is the crying it out part. We did that the first night and it was AWFUL. I just cried to myself the whole time. Her screams are terrible and I know she has to cry - she's a baby, but what is so wrong with holding her? After much debate and hearing from several friends about this, we've decided that for now, we will just hold her until she's almost asleep and then put her in her bed while she's still somewhat awake. I know that defeats the purpose of trying to get her to self-soothe and learn to sleep on her own, but come on! It's so hard. Anyone else do that or have that problem?!
Each day gets a little easier. I haven't shared Harper's birth story yet, because I'm just not ready to write about it! In the end, it was a wonderful thing because I got Harper, but it wasn't the most pleasant or best experience as I had hoped for. So, I've been in a lot of pain and some emotional weariness lately, but each day gets better! I am hoping to be cleared this week to be able to drive and take walks from my OB! I'm starting to get the hang of sleeping only 4 hours a night (!!wowza) and learning that if my house is dirty and my thank-you notes aren't written, life will still go on. The main thing I focus on is getting about 2 loads of laundry done and put up each day (yes, we go through that much) and making sure I'm following the schedule. :) The one thing I can say that I love about BF is that I gained 34 pounds in Harper's pregnancy and as of this morning I have 12 pounds to go until my pre-baby weight!! :) It is so nice to see my ankle bones and jaw lines again! HAHA
As far as my worries about work...um....I have NO time to think about it. Seriously, an entire day goes by without a thought of more than Harper. Not in an obsessive way, just in a way that I am all consumed in taking care of her right now. Thank goodness for maternity leave.
2 Things I'm very thankful for: my Mom and Sister. My sister just went through a newborn for the second time in December, so thankfully they can remember this stage and help us out!
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